Comedy Relief: High-Flying Mistress

This true story happened in the late 1970s and I had forgotten about it until my aunts, visiting from the United States, recalled it yesterday.  I assure you that it is a classic for all time…

An aunt of mine [ a first cousin of my mother ], a highly successful professional in her late 40s, was flying home to Manila from San Francisco, where she kept a really beautiful house in Hillsborough [ “Hillsboring” to her children  😛 ].  As always, she took Japan Airlines, First Class.

She took her seat and in a while was joined by another Filipina, pretty, in her early 40s.  My aunt introduced herself using her maiden name, for that was how she was known professionally and socially.  The younger lady was pleasant and they enjoyed their conversations throughout the long flight.

As always when ladies get together, they got to talking about their lives, their husbands / boyfriends, their children, their work, their health…

“I’m married, with five children.  We were married in 1952.”  my aunt volunteered.

“I’m still single, but I have a slightly older boyfriend;  he’s 49 and he’s a businessman.”  the younger lady responded.

“My husband is also a businessman… and he’s 49 too!”  my aunt exclaimed.

“Oh, that’s nice, men are so reliable at that age, don’t you think?”  remarked the younger lady.

“Yes, finally!  By the way, my husband is an architect… but his hobby is collecting guns.”  my aunt stated.

“Oh what a coincidence!  My boyfriend is also mad about guns… and he’s an architect too!”  exclaimed the younger lady.

Still suspecting nothing, my aunt asked:  “So what’s your boyfriend’s name?  Maybe I know him.  Manila is so small.”

“Manila is so small.”  You bet…   😛   😛   😛

“****** ******* [ my aunt’s husband ].”  revealed the younger lady.


My sweet, sweet, sweet aunt saw all the stars, constellations, and galaxies of the universe… !!!!!!!!

Needless to say, there was a godawful quarrel the minute my sweet, sweet, sweet aunt arrived at her house in Manila…

Bwahahahahah!!!!!!!!   😛   😛   😛



  1. Enrique Bustos said,

    February 15, 2011 at 3:47 am

    Here are the 28 golden rules for mistresses, as enumerated by Julie Yap-Daza in her book “Etiquette for Mistresses.

    1. Mistress is not Mrs. Know your place.

    2. Even if he tells you he loves you more than his wife, don’t let that go to your head.

    3. Mistresses should be ready to give up Valentine’s Day, Christmas Day, New Year’s Day, Holy Week and his birthday (that’s why mistresses are also called “holiday orphans” because of this).

    4. Befriend his secretary but avoid all contact with his driver (Whether he is a company driver or the family driver, the chauffeur is not to be trusted. Family drivers owe their allegiance to whoever pays them their salary and who feeds them the free meals in the kitchen with the other help. In short, they are loyal to the Mrs. more than the Mr.).

    5. As tempting as it seems, don’t patronize the wife’s beauty parlor, jewelry shop, dress shop, or father confessor.

    6. Don’t call him, wait for him to call.

    7. To be seen with him in public once is risky. The second time could be fatal to one of you. The third time is The End for both of you (love is lovelier when it’s forbidden. Because it’s forbidden, it’s supposed to be hidden).

    8. Never believe, and never say anything unfriendly about his wife, not even after he recites a litany of her faults.

    9. Mistresses are kept by rich men. But a mistress who is a woman of substance and independent means is better (Translation: Don’t ask him for money).

    10. Be discreet (Make sure he is not the type to talk in the sleep).

    11. Never travel together (Accidents will always happen. You can never tell).

    12. When he breaks a date, charge it to fate, not his fecklessness (Men will be boys. They will forget to call. They will break a date at the last minute. They will stand you up. They won’t explain and they won’t ask for forgiveness. But don’t cry nor throw a tantrum. Don’t break down because a mistress is supposed to understand a man more than his wife does).

    13. Wives have their own networks of spies and amigas. It is helpful for the mistress to have her own. A chaperone is not a good idea, however (Chaperones are passe. Besides, they talk).

    14. Mistresses don’t complain (They shouldn’t. It’s the wives, according to the husbands, who are “always complaining).

    15. Being No. 2, the mistress tries harder.

    16. Send him home as soon as it becomes apparent that he’s overstaying.

    17. It is practical for a mistress to be linked to another man, preferably her lover’s friend.

    18. If he’s a public man and you’re thinking of staging an accident of running into him, think: How many accidents can I pull off in one month?

    19. Don’t make unnecessary enemies of his children.

    20. Remind him to pay for everything in cash – dinner, flowers, perfume, champagne, pearls, diamonds, a microwave oven, etc….

    21. Don’t use tears as a weapon. He’s probably had enough of that from the Mrs. (Wives nag. Wives cry. If only for that reason, a mistress doesn’t use tears to get what she wants).

    22. Resist the urge to be found.

    23. Perish all thought that someday you’ll be No. 1.

    24. Married men who keep mistresses don’t like surprises, as a rule.

    25. A man with a mistress leads a double life, his mistress only a half life. Cheer up! A career will make you whole.

    26. Resist the urge to shower him with gifts. Evidence, evidence….!

    27. When in doubt, disappear.

    28. When all else fails, leave him

  2. Myles Garcia said,

    January 27, 2011 at 5:00 pm

    Oooooooooooooo! Must’ve been the longest 11-hour flight of their lives.

    And who arranged to seat them together (I mean those seats are reserved in advance)? Must’ve been the 3rd (stewardess) girlfriend, huh?

  3. January 27, 2011 at 4:02 pm

    robert e.:

    Please be reminded:

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    Please upload your comment again with the required information.

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    Toto Gonzalez

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