Understanding and Sympathy

As the years have passed, as I have dutifully attended the countless funerals and funeral buffets of family and friends [ from Le Souffle to Sisig Atbp. ], I have realized — not too insightfully and not too intelligently — that Life is like a Book that has to be read from the beginning to the end.  It is only with one’s passing, like a book’s end, that an observer gains a fuller, clearer, more effective perspective of the deceased’s life, of the book’s plot so to speak.  Somehow, an observer finally finds the elusive answers to several of the nagging questions that pervaded the life of the one who had passed.  In that rare understanding always emerges a profound sympathy.  We finally realize that they too went through, pardon the term, a lot of shit.


It is my cheery hope that when my own rockabye time comes, even just one or two of my family and friends will understand and sympathize with, again pardon the term, all the shit I went through… and see right through all the elegance and the ease and the artifice to the endless torture and the hellish moments in one way or the other that it actually was…



  1. November 17, 2009 at 9:10 am


    Please be reminded: From now on, comments with no real names, no email addresses that can be confirmed, and no reliable identity checks will no longer be allowed.

    I’m sorry. I don’t even know where that story about Don Eugenio Lopez aboard a cruise ship is in the + 6,000 comments of the + 330 posts of this blog.

    I tried emailing you but it is a nonfunctioning email address.

    Thank you.

    Toto Gonzalez

  2. November 16, 2009 at 11:29 pm

    THEY CALL these feelings and wishes EMPATHY and COMPASSION.

    The purpose of our lives is to become the grandest ( albeit positive ) image and ideals of ourselves. GOD allows us that freedom to live and choose. Make decisions towards that Supreme Revelation. That we were put on this EARTH not to love, or learn but to COMMUNICATE and share therefore learning to TRULY love.

    This is coupled with the success of doing with pleasure what one loves to do, in my case writing and painting.

    Only when we say, accept, yes embrace that fact that it doesn’t matter whether TOTO is right or LARRY is wrong, the secret is : After the passage of moments, hours, days, WHAT GOOD did Toto and Larry bring to all concerned who in this case read our insignificant streams-of-subconsciousness. GOD bless us, EVERYONE.

    It’s beginning to look a lot like CHRISTMAS, n’est-ce pas?

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